Mindset Matters

It has been awhile since I wrote a more reflective blog post. Writer’s block, lack of topics or muse, the path of least resistance, a variety of other excuses, mainly weak mindset , which ironically is the focus of this blog post.

I came across the following passage on David Goggins Instagram yesterday.  Goggins, a former Navy SEAL, wrote a post to the newest class of potential SEALs who are about to undergo Hell Week during BUDS.  Before reading on, there is swearing in his post.

Good luck to Class 335 starting Hell Week tomorrow. Men don’t get many chances to show their grit! U need to pray for bad weather, the coldest water & a broken fucking body! U should want the worst-case scenario in everything to do with Hell Week! Pray for it to be so hard that only ur fucking boat crew makes it all the way through! They make it through becuz u lead those mf’ers through the worst HW ever! U have to become the devil to get through Hell! This shit is about ur fucking mindset! If u are hoping for the best-case scenario in HW, u are not ready! Know that no mf’er can endure what u can- not becuz u are cocky rather becuz u have trained harder than any mf’er alive! U might think this is a fucking motivational speech…well, it’s not! This is my mentality before I go into any fucking war! HW is not for the weak! It’s for that mf’er looking for the beginning of his soul! U want to see where most people’s desire & will ends & urs begins! Be the man who smiles when everyone is in pain & miserable w/ their heads hanging! Not a friendly smile but 1 that says, “you think this fucking shit can hurt me?!” This is ur time to start creating the man u want to be! U can’t make that man in a soft fucking environment! U must be willing to suffer more than any other! Not becuz u have to but because u want to! Many people are looking for hard shit to prove themselves but once the hard shit becomes reality, it is too much to bear. Be on the lookout for The Look! U will know it once u see it. It looks like their soul is leaving their body. It happens during deep suffering when a person can no longer handle the mental pain & suffering of what they THOUGHT they could do. After you see The Look, quitting is very near. My ? to u is this…What the fuck are u going to do when ur balls are in ur stomach from the cold? when ur body is broke as fuck & u have 50 hours left? when ur boat crew starts to quit and u feel alone? when it won’t stop raining and u can’t get warm? I don’t know what you’re going to do but u asked me for my advice so here’s what the fuck I did….I prayed to God to even make it worse! Mindset: go to war with yourself! David Goggins, Class 235

While this post is directed to Class 335, it could very well be directed at any of us, for anything we have set our minds to do, and have failed, or are still trying to accomplish.  How many of you made New Years Resolutions? How many are still sticking to the plan? Why not if you gave up? Why so if you have not succumbed yet?

Mindset sets the tone.  The path of least resistance is driving through the Drive In on the way home, grabbing unhealthy food, going straight home turning the TV on, plopping your butt on the couch, eating your food without even realizing it, and staying putt on the couch for the duration of the evening flipping from one mindless reality TV show to the next, only taking your eyes off of the TV to scan the newest social media posts every ten minutes.

The path that is hard, the path we should follow, is the one where we make time to go to the market, cook healthy food, meal prep for the week so we have a constant supply of healthy nutritious food, make it a priority and the time to get to the gym, and exercise our bodies, knowing that the exercise and food is what is best for us.  When we get home we are finding quiet time to mindfully eat, and stimulation to exercise our brains releasing ourselves from the mindless, and time sucking social media quicksand we find ourselves sinking deeper and deeper in.

It is not easy to do the above.  We are in the midst of the five week Winter Melt, and it’s week 5, its easy for me to convince myself, its over, it doesn’t matter, my points aren’t high enough, so why bother.  But it does matter. If I give in to the easy path, when will it stop? If I don’t train myself to make the hard but better decision for me at every instance, how much more difficult will it be the next time for me to not take the easy route.  I own a gym, but find my ass glued more to a chair than I could have ever imagined. It is easy to say work takes priority. You don’t have time to move today. It is easy to give into the lack of motivation. It is easy to come home and see a fridge full of delicious and fantastically brewed craft beers.  I want one. Maybe two. That would be the easy way. The easy way would be to look mindlessly at my phone for who knows how long before I shut my eyes to sleep, and look at the stack of books on the shelf I have the intent to read, but make excuses not to.

It’s hard.  There are some days/nights where I lose.  I give into the weakness. The unproductivity. The laziness.  The excuses which really aren’t excuses but lies we tell ourselves.  Each time, I regret it. But I have to forgive myself and move on. Hoping to be stronger the next time. To make the best decision for me, for my body, for my health.  It’s hard. But not impossible. If I can do it, so can you. It’s all in your head. It is all in my head. Believe in yourself, and don’t convince yourself that you could do it if you put your mind to it and not get it done.  Just do it. Wish for hard. Embrace the hard until the hard becomes easy, and then find the next hard thing and embrace that. Strive to be better today than yesterday, and repeat, 24/7/365.